Redefining Self-fullness: Our Journey to Authentic Power

It’s way too easy to say that we, as women, find ourselves in a perpetual tug-of-war between society’s expectations and our inner calling. We’re all very familiar with the age-old narrative extolling virtues of self-sacrifice and selflessness, urging us to mute our desires, dreams, and ambitions in service of others. Glennon Doyle’s compelling quote from “Untamed” sparks a crucial conversation about the need for a shift: from being selfless to being ‘self-full’.

“Selfless women make for an efficient society but not a beautiful, true, or just one. When women lose themselves, the world loses its way. We do not need more selfless women. What we need right now is more women who have detoxed themselves so completely from the world’s expectations that they are full of nothing but themselves. What we need are women who are full of themselves. A woman who is full of herself knows and trusts herself enough to say and do what must be done. She lets the rest burn.” (Glennon Doyle, Untamed)⁠

Efficiency is often mistaken for effectiveness. A society running on the wheels of efficiency, where women play the part of cogs – ever giving, ever bending, never breaking – might seem to function seamlessly. But in this mechanised order, we lose the essence of what makes us human: authenticity, beauty, and justice. When women dim their light, the entire world is a shade darker.

However, reimagining the role of women in society doesn’t demand an egotistical pursuit. Being ‘full of oneself’ isn’t about narcissism; it’s about reconnecting with one’s core, understanding one’s worth, and standing tall in that knowledge. It’s about realising that a woman’s power isn’t derived from her ability to appease, but her capacity to inspire, lead, and create.

Detoxing from the world’s expectations is an essential step towards this self-realisation. The weight of these expectations can be smothering, making it hard to distinguish between what the world wants from a woman and what she wants for herself. But in shedding these layers, a transformation occurs. A woman finds her voice, vibrant and clear, unclouded by the noise of societal dictates.

The journey to self-fullness is one of self-preservation and empowerment. It’s about reclaiming space, not just in the external world but within oneself. When a woman is ‘full’ – of dreams, aspirations, love, and self-worth – she becomes a beacon. She knows her path, trusts her intuition, and is unafraid to mark her territory in the world.

This idea of being full resonates profoundly when we discuss the trifecta of purpose, passion, and profit. These aren’t disjointed realms but are deeply intertwined. With a clear sense of self, a woman can channel her purpose with passion, leading to meaningful profit – not just monetary, but in impact, fulfilment, and joy.

In this self-fullness approach, there will always be aspects that don’t align with our true essence. And that’s where the power lies: in discernment. Knowing what serves us, nurturing it, and letting the redundant burn away.

To champion the cause of women everywhere, we have to shift our narrative. Instead of applauding mere selflessness, it’s time to celebrate women who embrace their entirety. For in our wholeness, we hold the promise of a world that’s not just efficient but beautiful, true, and just.

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